Ruthlessness versus Self Pity

Ruthlessness is the light side of self pity. Seemingly an oxymoron, the use of this word means that you will ruthlessly protect your aliveness. It is like “putting your own oxygen mask on first” in order to stay alive so that you can be in service to yourself and...

Courage versus Denial

Courage is the light side of denial.  It takes courage and honesty to look at the difficult patterns of your own behavior and even more courage to go into action to correct your course. Denial is like “sticking your head in the sand” and results in stagnation. We must...

Clarity versus Obscurity

Clarity is the light side of obscurity.  Clarity results in focused and directed action. A spirit of clarity results in ease and comfort. Obscurity results in scattered and undirected action. That inner voice has both gentleness and clarity. So to get to authenticity,...

Intention versus Ambiguity

Intention is the light side of ambiguity.  Intention is clear and understandable. The result of intentionality is a spirit of trust. Ambiguity is unclear. The result of ambiguity is a lack of trust. He who climbs a cliff may die on the cliff, so what? Always a...